The first thing people say after they congratulate you is, “So when are you getting married?” and ask if you have a date picked out. Picking a date is important because you need to have a venue, officiant, food, dress, etc. and it signifies how much time you have to do all this. Everything is going to revolve around the date so it’s the first step in planning
So what are the top four factors into picking a date?
- The anniversary/special occasion/sentimental date: This is when you have a specific date in mind, perhaps a holiday even, and know it’s your date no matter what day it falls on. Some people are traditionalists and will use the weekend closest to it. My mom got married in 6/6 and her birthday is 7/7 and mine is 8/8 so she loved the idea for June. Some people chose holidays to always remember or the day the first met. If it’s special to you, go for it.
- The season: You know that it’s a specific season you want and the date is less important than the weather and month. You might want to be a June bride or find that a winter wedding is more your speed. Whatever the weather, there’s a month for you. I originally thought I wanted a fall wedding and ended up going with June because of weather. Chicago can be temperamental and I was worried about fall being too cold or rainy.
- Availability of your perfect venue/religious place of worship/etc.: You are stuck on the place and if it’s a popular one, willing to go with their availability and schedule. You just adore the place and know its where, not when, that matters. This could coincide with weather as well, as some months are booked more than others.
- Budget: The less fun but more practical sides of wedding show Friday, Sunday and midweek weddings are the least expensive. Saturdays and Sundays can go up 25-50% because of the day alone. Add in peak wedding season months from May to October and that’s where your extra charges start adding up. Making sure you get the wedding you want might involve a few compromises and sometimes the dare is easiest as it can save you the most money.
I ended up choosing June 22, 2018 for my date. I based mine on availability of the venue, time of year in Chicago, and picked a Friday because it was less expensive and I could have a smaller minimum of guests. I actually love my date even though it changed from my original fall plans. It also makes me happy I’ll be a June bride like my mom.
No matter how you pick the date, it will be special to you because you get to marry the love of your life and your favorite person. Not losing site of that is the most important thing and makes everything else just details.
You may be asking “But Tiffany, what about family members and guests?” and you’d be right. I will be getting into guests, friends, family members, and plus ones in a future blog answering all those questions.
What are your thoughts?