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365 days, 52 weeks, 12 months, and a whole lot of minutes until #WoodGotHerGood

I can’t believe exactly one year from now I will be walking down the aisle and marrying the crazy, handsome, funny, kind, and tall Mr. Joey Waffles. In lieu of my weekly #weddingwednesday post, I wanted to take today to write down how and what I’m feeling.

I am spending this Friday night and Saturday morning with three of my (unofficial until I formally ask) bridesmaids and my Mother trying on wedding dresses. I will probably have my maid of honor face timing in. I get to enjoy a rite of passage with my favorite people, and honestly I never thought I would be excited about this. You see, I was married once, when I was 24.

Ten years ago, I went to a courthouse and said “I do” in a black shirt and jeans and had my wedding meal at iHop and then went to work. I was young, in a rebound relationship, and thought loving and being in love were the same thing. He was my friend and let’s just say 90 Day Fiancé and I had a few things in common.We divorced 4 years later after living apart for over two years and I guess it just made marriage feel like a transaction. It was something I didn’t want or care about and it never felt real to me.

When JoeyWaffles and I got together, it was something neither of us wanted and we didn’t even know where this was going. Sure, we had both been in a few long term, serious relation ships but nothing had ever been smooth sailing. We both had  trepidation’s and had been hurt, so we were kind of going in with some restraint. Luckily the more time we spent together we accepted this was something totally different and that meant our future could be too.

In 365 days I get to join my life path with his, in front of family and friends. We get to share our love and goofiness with the most important people in our lives. We get to show faith and trust in each other and in love. We know that there is always a worse, when you say for better or worse, and we’re ready.

In 365 days, I get to dance and sing and enjoy a day full of love and acceptance. A day that 50 years ago, we couldn’t have had without breaking a law. A day that symbolizes our commitment and the life we’re choosing. No, a piece of paper won’t change much but it will be a sign of love, joy, of promises, of a bond, and will remind us that we are sharing this thing called life together.

In 365 days, I get married to my favorite person. My person.

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Wedding Wednesday: Picking a Date

The first thing people say after they congratulate you is, “So when are you getting married?” and ask if you have a date picked out. Picking a date is important because you need to have a venue, officiant, food, dress, etc. and it signifies how much time you have to do all this. Everything is going to revolve around the date so it’s the first step in planning

So what are the top four factors into picking a date?

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  1. The anniversary/special occasion/sentimental date: This is when you have a specific date in mind, perhaps a holiday even, and know it’s your date no matter what day it falls on. Some people are traditionalists and will use the weekend closest to it. My mom got married in 6/6 and her birthday is 7/7 and mine is 8/8 so she loved the idea for June. Some people chose holidays to always remember or the day the first met. If it’s special to you, go for it.
  2. The season: You know that it’s a specific season you want and the date is less important than the weather and month. You might want to be a June bride or find that a winter wedding is more your speed. Whatever the weather, there’s a month for you. I originally thought I wanted a fall wedding and ended up going with June because of weather. Chicago can be temperamental and I was worried about fall being too cold or rainy.
  3. Availability of your perfect venue/religious place of worship/etc.: You are stuck on the place and if it’s a popular one, willing to go with their availability and schedule. You just adore the place and know its where, not when, that matters. This could coincide with weather as well, as some months are booked more than others.
  4. Budget: The less fun but more practical sides of wedding show Friday, Sunday and midweek weddings are the least expensive. Saturdays and Sundays can go up 25-50% because of the day alone. Add in peak wedding season months from May to October and that’s where your extra charges start adding up. Making sure you get the wedding you want might involve a few compromises and sometimes the dare is easiest as it can save you the most money.

I ended up choosing June 22, 2018 for my date. I based mine on availability of the venue, time of year in Chicago, and picked a Friday because it was less expensive and I could have a smaller minimum of guests. I actually love my date even though it changed from my original fall plans. It also makes me happy I’ll be a June bride like my mom.

No matter how you pick the date, it will be special to you because you get to marry the love of your life and your favorite person. Not losing site of that is the most important thing and makes everything else just details.

You may be asking “But Tiffany, what about family members and guests?” and you’d be right. I will be getting into guests, friends, family members, and plus ones in a future blog answering all those questions.

What are your thoughts?

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Wedding Wednesdays: Getting Engaged

So, I’m engaged!

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Without much fanfare, Joey and I are tying the knot! This gives me great blog inspiration and I can’t want to share all the things I’m learning and loving with you! Getting to marry the man of my dreams who lets me have four chihuahuas and takes me on jeep rides and has the best heart and laugh is pretty amazing.

I can’t wait to share wedding details and our love story and my journey with you all!

What better way to start off Wedding Wednesdays with a fun infographic I created.

Hope you enjoy it!

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What advice do you have for me?